Loving Two People At Once -Are You The Type?

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Some say it takes a certain person to love two people, such as a narcissist or commitment phobe, and while this may be somewhat true, the reality is that anyone can fall in love with multiple people. We do it all the time. We love our parents, brother, sister, grandparents, and even our crazy uncles. While these are all examples of asexual relationships, there are also plenty of examples of polygamous societies. Our heart takes up a pretty big space, sometimes so big we feel like we have more to give than receive.

Falling for Two People?
Settling for Mister/Misses good enough is something people do. Perhaps he/she wanted a sensitive poet, and a strong financial provider. Let’s say the provider wins, the next thing you know they’ve got several beautiful children. Their kids eventually move out, leaving the two of them. One day at the park they meet the sensitive poet-type he/she has always dreamed of. Think it couldn’t happen? There are stories like this all the time, featuring a love struck wanderer, wondering how it’s possible and what they should do about it.

While it may be difficult to love two people who are the same type, it’s possible to love two opposing types. In a sense, our mind blends the complimentary portions of their personality into one ultimate, perfect partner. Another common scenario is falling into an early stage of love (infatuation) with a new love interest, while remaining in the same late stage romance/passionate love with a current partner.

Love is not always selective or faithful. Science has shown us that love is initially created by a dopamine flush, traveling through the alleyways of our brain each time we meet someone attractive. This can be described with the same elation as a heroine addict injecting cocaine into their vein. Considering this immense power, many scientists regard love among the same biological drive as water, food, and sex.

Who is Most Drawn to Love Triangles
Nobody knows for sure. A 1970 study reported that 27 percent of undergraduate men experience feelings of love within the first four dates, while only 15 percent of women have these feelings. Another study in 1981 found similar results, asking 231 undergraduate couples about their belief in “love at first sight.” Men were much more accepting of this fairytale scenario, while women were more skeptical. Read More

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